Of course you have been working on yourself. Why else would you be posting?
Re the sex conversation. On the first page, you made the sex conversation ALL ABOUT YOU with respect to you not being able to throw her over your shoulder and ML. On this page, you made the sex conversation ALL ABOUT YOU and explaining YOUR feelings and actions.
If W shares anything with you now, and you make it all about you, you are confirming why she feels she needs to leave you.
Try hearing her and making it about her -- "yes, I did push sex. I pushed for sex over and over when I knew you did not want it. Because it was something you did not want, it was selfish on my part. It must have felt pretty gross to have someone pushing sex on you who you did not want to have sex with. It was inappropriate, it was selfish, it was hurtful to you. I am deeply sorry."
Try the 5 Languages of Apology, it might be helpful.
