His text is a strong indication that the court date is a wake up call for some soul searching-FINALLY! Don't count on him actually finding his soul.
If you want you can let him go and fix his own life or screw it up. he sounds a lot like my H, making all the wrong choices to sabotage all good things for some type of control of his life. The alternative for you would be to continue DBing and give him unconditional love and support. Part of me thinks I will still grow old as a grandparent with my H. That is still my Northern Star but I am quickly sailing in the wrong direction when my resentment builds up. I want to say that your post is a glimpse into my future. I know it. I don't want it to happen but I know my H's patterns and as many 180's and As ifs as I have tried I can clearly see him staying with a troubled OW to make him self feel better about his own issues of manhood and aging and MLC and being stuck with responsibilities. I hope to handle my impending D as you have, with a calm loving attitude ready for forgiveness but on a condition of strength. Do not dread that day. Just go zen until it has passed.
Last edited by mkultra; 08/15/0701:57 PM.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
