Funny you should say that. My ex-H told me the other day that he keeps viewing our old videos (he is visiting with the kids and they are watching them together) and watching everyone interact and trying to remember what was going on at the time. He keeps looking for clues as to what happened (this is seven years later). He has decided that while he might not have treated me "badly" all the time, he didn't "treat me well" (potato, po - tahto). Meanwhile, he is still so fused with me that on his first visit with the kids in over a year he had to call to see if he handled something well with DD10. It was a garden variety parenting issue and he did just fine. The fusion didn't end with the divorce. It seems to have a life of its own. I hope your 2bx will do better.
