Rain I believe in circumstances like mine and maybe yours, you cant defend, you can certainly say you understand how she might feel a certain way. It is disarming to agree w/ someone even if you are really not agreeing if you know what I mean.
I also think it will be hard for you to get somewhere w/ your W unless you are in front of a disinterested party where your W may feel safe. I talk from experience here. It was amazing how I could say something to my W and 1 hr later the C is saying the same thing and she is over there nodding and agreeing whatever. This I say from the last time I went through this. SOunds like your W is still to angry with you to have any productive ocnvo.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.