Disassociated: To deny any connection or involvement with somebody or something.
Immune: Not sensitive or susceptible to something.
I did not say that one should become disassociated from their partner in order to become immune to their compliments or put-downs.
I spent a lot of years on this one with the shrink; when we seek our partners' approval, we are 'fusing.' When their importance, whether in opinion or deed, exceeds our own... we are now needy, and well and truly fused.
