I can understand how you feel about bending over backwards/enabling a comfortable situation for your W. I feel I'm doing the same; H has no interest in saving the M. Last night he asked me to tell him to leave. He just doesn't get it.
Unlike me, you have young children to consider.
They say patience runs out; I'll still carry on being patient after H leaves.
Puddle - I'm really jealous you're all in Texas. Wish I was there too.
Nomopo - if you need an English Nanny, I'm thinking I'll be available soon,