Plank/WAW, thread 2

[Heimlich]

Kat, OT, CVA,

Thanks for the thoughts. Sadly, for me, you are all correct. Kat, not feeling very smart at the moment. I did let me emotions get the better of me.

OT, the convo on the first page was pushed by my W (I was in the process of walking away after stupidly beginning it). She asked how I felt and I told her. And, really, she actually listened for the first time. She heard me. I should have stopped there, but like wiggling a loose tooth, couldn't let it be. Kept thinking, OK, she finally really HEARD what I was saying and that one more conversation might do the trick. The sad thing is, I KNOW that one more conversation isn't going to do the trick. I KNOW that telling her that I feel like I'm back isn't going to help.

The talk this evening was stupid and gained nothing. Kat's right, I panicked. You three may wash your hands of me, please don't, but giving her my ring and giving her the succinct statement above felt right and they were received well.

Actually, my W did acknowledge that she had hurt me -- and that's a first.

I will quibble with you OT, that I have been working on myself -- other than my seeming inability to shut the hell up. (Oh, and I didn't bring up sex, she did. Even I'm not that stupid, hard as that may be to believe.)

Thanks again, everyone.

BD