Trying to set those goals!

[Trixi]

H managed to lock his keys in his trunk, so I had to go and unlock the car.
While I was driving him over to the car he said "I wasn't mean last night, was I?"
Me "um..don't you remember?"
H 'Yeah, I remember'
me after a very long pause "I don't believe you were malicious, but it was mean to me."
H "I was just trying to be honest."
Me "Uh huh"
H "well, I just didn't want it to turn into a "friends with benefits" type thing."
Me "That wouldn't have happened--that is why I told you, you would have to date & court me before any sex happened. I don't "date" my friends."

Somewhere in there he had asked how I was feeling and I said that I was pissed and that him working to kill his feelings really ticked me off and that he could have used "the Secret" to make his marriage better, not destroy it. I kinda went off. I am tired. He obviously cares about my feelings (to a degree) and I think that he is hoping we'll be friends thru this. To all who do that (be friends with the WAS)- I tip my hat. I will help him if he gets in a bind (like today) but I just don't see how I can continue to have contact with him and still keep my sanity.

One of the things he said to me in the past was that he knew he could do what he wanted and I would always be there. Trying to keep me as a friend sort of feels the same to me. Does that make sense?