How the heck do I start over with being friends with him first? He is so hard to talk to. We talk about mundane things, like who is getting voted off of big brother, or who is gonna win hell's kitchen (rock), or a safe subject is our son, usually.
How about you do things with him? find a new interest or project to do together, go out together as time allows (yes, I have learned now the horror of court days which eat up what time off my h has) Make it a point to go out at least every 2wks alone and no kid talk.
Have you read "I love a cop"? it is an excellent book dealing with families and spouses of law enforcement officers, 12 yrs is a lot, I read cops get jaded and mask emotions so much that they can't turn their emotions back on when they are with their families.
Originally Posted By: verycrazy
Anyway, it was stupid, and I will not comment on it to him, any further, because his response was so uncalled for.
choose your battles hon, somethings aren't worth fighing for, our motto here used to be "is that the hill you want to die on?"
Originally Posted By: verycrazy
he is afraid I will get pregnant. I told him that he knew how difficult it is for me to get pregnant, and that especially now. But it's like he is obsessed with it...told me last year that he is afraid I will get knocked up and "trap" him...I just get the feeling that if I were somehow to get pregnant, it would spoil his plans he had or has to run off with that skank.
Boy, where to begin. I guess you aren't on the pill or you dont' believe in BC? And that BS of him that you'll "trap him"? wth? Because of what recently happened to me I am afraid of the stage your M has reached -- he feels unsafe with you and you are pretty sure he will bolt if given a chance. Has this sitch been like this for a long time? recently?
My H is still a rookie in the force, I am expecting change in him, this line of work is hard on people (hope your H takes his meds, men can be in such denial when it comes to meds and docs)
Hang in there hon, hope he stops blaming you for his problems, it took my H a while to see what he was doing.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
