You need to tattoo that sentence on the inside of your eyelids with glow-in-the-dark ink so that you are reminded every time you blink.
I think you are a smart guy, but when it comes to your sitch, you are panicking and acting out of emotion. As OT has said, it is not helping. Your W is either not ready to hear what you have to say or she just doesn't believe you right now. That is just where she is right now, and you need to accept that.
Stop telling her about all of the changes you are making. This is an example of something she is not ready to hear. Continue working on yourself and making the changes, but do not mention them. Let her discover them for herself. This is the only way she will be convinced of them.
I understand that you love your W, that you don't want your M to end, and that this whole thing just sucks. But you've got to stop doing things that are just digging your hole deeper. Focus on yourself. Make yourself a better, happier you. Your last post sounds like you are ready to do that, but make sure it sticks.
