JustDucky, I don't mean to put down all women. Just something I've read regarding human physiology and how that affects painful memories in one of the relationship books that looked interesting and may explain some things.
I totally agree with your perspective. People make mistakes and as long as they own up to it they should be forgiven. Too bad that your WAH is an account keeper. Holding grudges really suck!
Maybe I just have really bad memory and don't remember things. I swear my W always thinks I remember things wrong. A lot of the things she bring up I swear I have never said or done. Maybe I just choose not to remember them. I just don't recall ever saying things that awful or doing things like that. Of course things do get exaggerated in people's memory as time go on. And of course we do stupid things in blind anger too. Maybe just the difference where I choose to not hold onto them and she does.... I think it may also be because I am crazy in love with her and it makes it a lot easier to just forget that they hurt you versus where she says she's not IN love with me anymore and..... It sometimes seems that my W treats perfect strangers better than she treats me. She will usually think the worst of me rather than giving me the benefit of the doubt. Heck, she even dreams the worst of me when she dreams about me. It's kinda scary. :P Of course I may have driven her to that point as well.... I have done some really dumb things. I'm hoping that what I'm doing now can show her that I'm not the person she doesn't like anymore and she has enough patience to see it through....
I'm really hoping that she can work through the resentment. I just don't see how she will get her feelings back if she continues to resent me for everything.
Does anyone have positive experience with their WAS getting over the resentment thing?
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
