CVA - Angels vs. Devils

[Not Much Left]

Well

I dont know if I should sigh or scream

Talking to W to wrap up the day. Asks if I will be here tomorrow when they get home (cant remember why she asked but there was a reason) so I say, "I have a counseling session tomorrow"

W: Oh, is this the first time? Meaning in a while?
me: Well, I am actually going to see someone new.
W: What do you mean?
me: Just described who new C was and why I chose to switch.
W: When was the last time you saw your old C, basically asking if I had talked to him after she did.
Me: I said, yeah, I saw him one time after that, why?
W: No reason.
Me: I told her I still had some things to work on and I really wasnt getting that from the old C.

I really dont think there was any bomb there that she was hoping he would tell me.

That exchange seemed to go Ok

Me: I asked if she was still going
WL: She says she hasnt been as her C said go see my C then come back and see her if she wants to come together or by herself
Me: SO I ASKED, So where are you on all that right now, we havnt really talked about it, do you want to go see someone together?
W: THE DREADED, I DONT KNOW.
Me: Can you tell me what that means?

It is amazing how I still get no response. She did say we will have to talk about this later. NOT GOOD?

Also I said, "So, should I initiate this discussion or you?, I need to ask you this because I dont know if you will talk to me about it or you are waiting for me to say something"

This is where she ALWAYS gets tongue tied. She literally starts getting tongue tied. So I say "I dont want you to get tongue tied, I want you to feel comfortable talking to me". She says, "Ummm, yeah, well continue this aother time."

Basically she is trying to get the kids to bed, her mom is waiting on her to get the boys out of the bathroom and no one can get to bed till she starts so she just defers.

Anyhow, the conversation was not filled with any anomosity or anger or anything, just polite conversation with no commitment to work on it from her.

Based on this conversation, I have noe clue what she will say. I mentioned her maybe going to see my new C much like she did with Old C I think before the "I DONT KNOW" comment and she says "well, you are basically starting over so..." I calmly point out that that is not really the way I saw it because I was starting at a much different place then when I started with old C. She says "yes, I understand that, just pointing out that he had history with you before I saw him".

Thoughts anyone. I am OK with having gone thru this and dont really view it as a backslide. Some of it was risky, but something like this needed to be said so...