What a lovely idea you started. I would continue but think carefully in order not to be perceived as manipulative or blaming. Support is a good word.
Thanks. Guess it was just one of my ideas when I was feeling super romantic towards my W. Funny thing is with all she has done recently, I would still take her back in an instant if she would only let me.
Well, maybe I am a bit more detached. As you know W went to a concert last night up in Albany. I spoke to her around 10 and she told me she would call me when she got back to her friends' house later last night. Does she call???? Of course not. I wake up around 3:30 and realize that she hasn't called. Well, I started to think about what she could be doing. I stopped myself from imagining things and tried to get back to sleep. I fell back asleep around 5. If it was even a few weeks ago, I would have been up until I heard from her. Got a text from her @ 5:30 saying that she had fell asleep and would call me later that morning and that she was sorry. I have always asked her that if she is not going to be coming home that she call me when she arrives at whatever place she is going to be sleeping so I know she is safe. So when I talked to her today, I just asked her what happened last night, and if she had fun etc. The old me also would have gave her a hard time about not calling. Honestly, it really did annoy me, but I tried to just let it go. I don't understand why she does not have the consideration to simply pick up the phone and let me know she is safe. I don't think it is an unreasonable request. Oh well, continue with detachment and try not worry about things I cannot control.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1162413&page=2#Post1162413 M-28 W-28 Together 10 years Married 2 years No children Things started taking a turn in 01/07