PA? MLC? Please shed a light

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Thank You so much.
I did call the OW H. We met. He new about thier friendship, she hasn't been hiding it like my H. But they are seperating and talking about a D. He asked her what they were talking about and she said the same things my H said they were. Her H said she's never lied in the past so he's going to give her the benefit of the doubt. He also agreed that their friendship was inappropriate, but where they're planning a D he said he couldn't make any demands. He also confirmed if my H has been defensive, and lying there's obviously cause for concern that it's an EA. He did make me feel slightly better that she hasn't been out of town. I thought when my H has been they might have met. He said they've been fighting and she'll leave and come home late. But it doesn't prove anything. I don't know why he would lie to me about where he stayed the other night though. Her H said she wasn't out all night that evening.
My H is still away with his dad. The timing of all this couldn't be worse. His father is dying of cancer, and may only have a few weeks to live. Her H suggested I talk to her about my feelings about thier friendship. I think with what's happening with his dad I need to bide my time, focus on myself, like everyone's said, and address the lying or the OW at a better time. If I do anything now, it will be sure to blow up in my face. I feel slightly better about things, and all of your advice has meant a lot. Thank You.