Although I don't know the details regarding your health, and I'm sorry that it's not going well, I'm going to open my big mouth here and say that I think that your decision to file for D is a hasty one! Please give yourself some time to really think about it, with no interaction from w. I looked back at your last thread and it was just 2 weeks ago that your w decided that she wanted to work on the m. I know she's been back and forth since then, and it's been crazy, but that doesn't mean that you have to file now. I suggest giving yourself more time to detach and then make that huge decision. Hugs...