You are absolutely right ROOT. I kicked myself for doing it, but he just got me so upset and I went to that place that I dont like. I have been just doing NC with him, because that is what I need right now, and I still obviously having an issue with what I say. I have held my tounge a many time, but I also do not feel like he needs to think I accept what he is doing. A long time ago, I used the word acceptance and I felt like that gave him the ok to do what he is doing. I know there is nothing I can do about it, but I wanted him to know where I stand. I do not want a divorce, I want to work on our marriage. But maybe that was wrong? It is just such a confusing time.
You are right, I do prefer that the OW be nice to my children it is just a stab whenever I hear them talk about her. My ultimate preference is that there be no OW around my children and it just makes me sick that pretty much I am not given a say in the matter.
