There and Back, #2

[SallyM]

here's a wwyd?

H just called to say goodnight to the kids. he was very short with me...oddly so. I'm not saying we have this great relationship, obviously we don't, but he was short to the point of sounding angry about something. the same was true when he called this morning. my question is, should I call him back and ask him what is up?

my instinct is that you all are going to tell me not to, but at the same time, I'm just not sure. over the past winter, I knew something was up but figured he was just stressed at work. I asked a couple of times, but never pushed. am wondering if me just coasting, not asking, is that just me falling into the same old pattern? should I call back and try to find out what is going on?

Its really irritating me, actually. I guess its just reminding me that even though I've been feeling pretty okay this week (probably because he hasn't been around), we are still in crap-land. I can push him aside, try to move on with my life, etc, but it doesn't mean he actually goes away...he's still there. (does that make sense)? and I'm probably irritated because wtf does he have to be irritated about? that I'm living my life without him? well, he doesn't want a part of it. I suppose it comes down to the same old, same old, he's angry because I'm not doing the hard part...aka, asking for the divorce. or maybe he's not mad at all, maybe she really is there, even though he said she wasn't going. maybe she's there and he doesn't want to sound chummy to me. or maybe its because his buddy is there, and same thing, he doesn't want to sound chummy with me?

or maybe I'm doing exactly what my friend keeps telling me not to...stop thinking for him. stop answering the questions for him. but then again, would asking him the questions really be a good idea?

so wwyd?