need help to win back WAW

[DaveJ]

Thank you so much for the advice. A few follow up questions.

You do need to give her space. This sounds very much like my W the first time this happened to us. Resentment, that damn word.

If you don't mind me asking, what do you mean by "first time"? I'm really hoping this won't be a roller coaster anymore and we both finally realize what's good for each other and try our hardest to make each other happy. Then again, life ain't so easy usually and straight forward.... And I agree. I really hate that word!

1. Believe nothing they say, and less than 1/2 of what they do

Even if they say they will be completely honest with you from this point on? I suppose them being confused cannot help. No offense to the women out there but it does seem they change their mind quite a bit. Drives me crazy with just something like getting dressed....

3. If she comes to you crying or whatever, listen closely and validate what she is saying, dont get defensive or explain YOUR case or express YOUR needs, they need to be put on the backburner for now.

What if she calls and says she misses me and wants to see me? Do I go over or should I not be so available?

8. Going back to pt 3. Space, Time, PATIENCE. 30 days is nothing. She will come to you, I promise.

She is extremely impatient and tends to want to see results immediately. Thus we keep having this roller coaster thing. She keeps checking herself, finding little or no progress and gives up. I have pleaded with her to have patience and give it time. How else am I suppose to show her I'm different and better.... I hope somebody up there give her the strength and courage to have patience.

Anyway, just getting started, hope this helps.
You are going to be OK, ok?

Yep. That helps a lot! I'm going to keep positive and hope for the best. She has actually said that she's really proud of the way I have been dealing with this and being positive.... Which I take it to be a positive sign.