Need advice on WAW with OM

[sandi2]

Hi, hope you are doing better by now. Yes, I feel that your W is afraid to trust you again. It will be a test for both of you.....

I think perhaps she has a combination of some MLC, low self-esteem, and depression all mixed together. She is confused and she really doesn't know what she wants right now. I have been in that same boat, so she is being honest. A week-end away may be helpful, but if she stays away and has no contact with you...I hope she will do the same by the OM. Otherwise, it won't help anything and may cause more damage to your M.

I know it was hard to admit to hurting your W. However, it helps to know where we mess up and what we need to work on to get back what we have lost. Right now, she must see the very best you can be at all times. In time, hopefully, you will get another chance to prove to her that you want to treat her like a priceless queen (your queen) instead of a pile of dog poop.

I think that once a spouse demeans the other one...it does cause some serious damage. I'm not sure that a person would ever get over that, but I guess it would depend on that individual and their love, strength, and ability to forgive. It is bad that we so hurt the one we love the most...the worst of all. I pray that you will get to prove your love for her for a very long time.

Let me know how things go.

Sandi2