How you doing today Puddle? My friend my be correct in what he says about some of my ideas. But, also, I got to thinking about it and you might tell your H this, "Well, if I have a limited amount of time left to be with you, then I have decided it is going to be fun times and make some good memories". Like Nomopo says, it is up to you....nobody knows your H like you do. But, I bet it would get his attention, which is what a 180 is about...to a degree...and I bet he would feel like you were certainly doing a 180. Although, if it seems tasteless or out of character or you just feel too "fake" doing it....then try something else.

You may even want to give him the little warning of "I'm going to make this good while I can" speech and then start doing fun stuff and keep the conversation upbeat and positive. Even if you don't go wild (like with costumes & sex, etc.) you can talk the talk. It is hard to stay down or mad or grumpy around someone that is cheerful. On the other hand, when you are around a depressed person, it just tends to rub off and depress you too.

I guess you would get some answers one way or the other. Either you H would be delighted to see a change, or else, like Nomopo said, he may be too far gone. If that is the case, then you will know not to waste your time going that route.

Let me know what you do.

Sandi2

Last edited by sandi2; 08/14/07 09:44 PM.
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