Penny, I agree he wants OW and you. I know you feel like you have no choice but to tolerate it. You have a choice and when you are ready you will make it, but for now, I agree you need to become distant and mysterious. I know it's hard. I've had to do it myself, but no matter how much you want your marriage to work, it can't when he is with OW. OW has nothing to lose and you have everything, so it's time to try something different. I think that he needs to think that the great Penny is moving on with her life without him.
In one of your posts, you mentioned having horses. I do too. Actually, it was always H's thing and now I sit at this great horse farm that we built by myself. Our barns match his toy farm set from when he was 10...Talk about throwing away your life and dreams. It seems like a couple of us LBW's on here have horses (you, me, Saffie, ponygirl). Maybe we went wrong when we married cowboys (at least hobby cowboys). As the Waylon Jennings song says... "Mamas don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys. ‘Cos they’ll never stay home and they’re always alone. Even with someone they love."
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