Thanks for the perspective - it is true that I will miss the baby "tick" when he isn't one anymore.
Corri,
I finally read through this set of posts about the whole "family vacation gestalt". I think your feelings about sex with bf on "family time" are completely normal. This is a new man, just going on a vacation with the whole clan is an adjustment of its own.
In the future there are a few helpful strategies. When we are on a family vacation we pretty much have morning sex. Sometimes we even get up very early (before the babies), have sex and go back to sleep. Teens are always out like a light in the morning. We also always arrange one dinner or lunch out alone when DS15 or one of the older boys is "in charge" of the clan. That little time alone seems to make a great deal of difference. It appears though that your feelings about the sex were just a natural outgrowth of the "purpose" of the trip. Not every trip has the same purpose. Maybe it just felt a little too "homey". That part will ease in time.
I also think that since you have been part of a step family you may have some issues related to that. I have been awfully pleased at how my blended family has come together. My kids have never told my H "You're not my real Dad." or anything of the sort. They flexibly call him by his first name or Dad as THEY choose. The blended family doesn't have to be the "slightly used" version of a family with only the intact family being the "deluxe" version. It can work very well. All this is not to say that you will be forming a blended family - although maybe it felt a little too much that way?
My solution? Go on vacation again - soon but this time just you and bf so girlfriend-Corri can come out to play.
