Another point to be made is that there is a difference between needing/wanting sexual validation and just liking a "sweet talker." I've always been a sucker for a sweet-talker (how I ended up with 2bx-big mystery) and it doesn't have anything to do with validation needs. It's just a turn-on to hear those words coming at you. Who cares if it's blarney? It's just a form of foreplay that lends arousal through the auditory part of your brain.
Speaking of 2bx, what about the reverse sich? If I was walking around feeling pretty cute in my new pink t-shirt and with no provocation he said "Pink is not your color." how should I have reacted if differentiated? My current take on the matter would be that I should have calmly said "You know, I think it would really be my preference not to live with someone as rude as you."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
