OMG where do I start? Self imposed exile is now over I guess. Can this be right? I registered here on Feb 24 of 05 and this is now August 14 of 07. Cannot even do the math.
Something urged me to post again, just to update to my friends here. Some are still here and posting away, soem are gone but NEVER FORGOTTEN!!
Well D went Final of January of this year. Words cannot describe the pain and raw emotion that went with all of it. I was the one to go to court and make the declaration on the stand, I remember the eternity it took to choke out the answer "Yes" to the my attorney's question if the marriage was broken beyond repair. But from that moment on life has gotten better.
I guess part of this post is to revalidate what many before have stated, there is life after divorce and the huge plus is we get to truly rebuild the persons we were before.
I have refound myself and the strength inside to do anything in life. I have purchased a new home, am becoming a better father to my 3 boys, my work is better, life is good. I was reforged I guess through this process.
For us that are left behind, we have are able to grow and become a better stronger person. This happens when we realize WE are not responsible nor did we create the situation we were (are) in and cannot make decisions for otehr people.
As too my ex, the grass was not as green. Her 2nd affair, the one which was the one she felt compelled to file so she could be with, is now in rehab for alcoholism. Was highly abusive, verbally to her and was popped for DUI of 2.7. I feel sadness in my heart and concern for her and my boys. Amazing enough, during this time, she has become increasingly depressed and her friends are trying to intervene but who was it she sought for support? You guessed it, me! The guy who she could not stand to be around nor share her life with. I have done my best to be supportive but from a WHOLE different angle and mindset. There is caring there from me but as a friend to a friend. I find it very ironic. From a close friend of hers whom I got a call from, she regrets fully her decision. Go figure.
I have moved on. Dating was very difficult and very odd. Many crazies out there. I have found a very nice woman that I have been seeing for about 3 months now. She is wonderful. It has been a slow process and a LD relationship (3 Hours away) but we have been able to make it work. The distance has been a benfit as well as a bane. It has allowed us to build our relationship on talking and communication. Something I have really grown to cherish.
Well so much for all that. A short update turned into a novel. For those friends who stumble across this, please say hello. For those who are here and do not know me, it does get better! Remember...This too shall pass!
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
