We decided to move from GA to AL and my H took a job as a recruiter at the University were we'd met. So off we move to AL. I enrolled in the expediated program they offered (which meant I went to school every Sat from 8-5) and worked full time at the daycare my daughter went to. We'd been there a year when he moved out and filed for D. Found out a few months later that he'd been having an affair with a student (I suspected this)and he was fired. He tried to stop the D, but I decided that three strikes and he was out.
Not sorry at all, gives us an ability to understand who we are talking to.
Have a great evening.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
I was reading some other threads, trying to get some perspective on my sitch and I'm just sitting here in awe. It just amazes me that the spouses can't see the level of commitment that some of you have. I can tell you that if my H did half of what I've read on various threads, I'd kiss the ground he walked on.
Mandi I wish we all would have given this much before, not many of us would be here. Let's just give this one our best shot, shall we?
Just never regret your effort here. If our Spouse(s) decide to not go with us, we MUST find something in us that knows we gave it all we had and it is their loss. Unfortunately, sometimes there are innocents involved who did not ask for any of this. 4 in my case.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
yes, you are right we should give it our best shot..that's what I'm trying to do.
I'm sorry for your 4 that are going through this with you, they will be okay in the long run but we'd all like to spare our children any kind of pain, esp this kind.
Speaking of children...I had an interesting conversation with D14 last night. We talked about the possibility of me reconciling with H. She said she didn't want him to come back and that she didn't miss him. She said that he was mean to her and her sister and was always mad. I didn't know what to say. Should I give up my DB and let him go?
Yes, he's their step father. We got married when my daughters were 3 & 7.
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Do you think he is mean to them or otherwise mistreats them?
That's hard to say..he says the reason for the strained relationship is b/c I never allowed him to be a father. I do admit that at times I didn't let him discipline them like he wanted, but I felt like sometimes he was too harsh. He had never been married or had kids, so this was all new to him. This caused a lot of tension between us which resulted in many, many arguements. The only thing that makes me think she's right is that my parents both said that he was too strict on the girls and at times they saw him go overboard. I second guess myself constantly on this b/c he made me feel like he was right.
