Wow, prodigal, thank you for sharing with us such painful and intimate details of your life.
Regarding the quote below... ummm, are you really my wife in disguise??? This is exactly how she justifies her actions that she knows are injurious to her husband and kids:
Originally Posted By: prodigalwife
"Destiny" was my favorite cop-out. I was "meant" to be with my OM, he was my "soulmate". It relieves her responsibility; it's all beyond her control. It's all part of the fantasy; no lie can last forever. But as long as it lasts, she'll cling to it with everything she has.
And she is clinging with every ounce of energy that she has.
Next quote:
Originally Posted By: prodigalwife
... but we lie loudly to ourselves, saying the divorce would be for our spouse's good, that we just want to let them be happy with someone else too.
Just yesterday wife told me that I do not love her. Can you imagine that? Of course you can, but hearing her say it came as a shock to me. She is saying that the divorce is for my good as well.
You have no idea how helpful you have been (to me at least). My divorce may indeed occur, but regardless of where we end up, I will continue to bust my A$$ trying to slow it down.
I will admit that there are no shortages of moments when I am tempted to hang it up. But all it takes is to hear my one of my kid's voices in the other room to make me believe that it is all worth the effort. I may be losing my share of battles, but I intend to win this war.
