yes, you are right we should give it our best shot..that's what I'm trying to do.
I'm sorry for your 4 that are going through this with you, they will be okay in the long run but we'd all like to spare our children any kind of pain, esp this kind.
Speaking of children...I had an interesting conversation with D14 last night. We talked about the possibility of me reconciling with H. She said she didn't want him to come back and that she didn't miss him. She said that he was mean to her and her sister and was always mad. I didn't know what to say. Should I give up my DB and let him go?