Fran
Thanks for your response, it helps me when I know others have BTDT. Oh NO, does that mean I need a 2 x 4 for looking to others for validation? I'm in some ways kidding and then maybe not. I'm still trying to grasp all the validation, fusion, differentiation (sp?), top, bottom... the list goes on and on and realizing how I much I have to learn & I am a SLOW learner. Eeks!

In case anyone is curious or maybe just to journal for myself...
H got home yesterday and we did the chit chat how was your day stuff. I'm not sure I was listening, I know BAD ME but I was still thinking of jumping him, couldn't ! I finally said let's talk, please! H's response "I'm sorry" and you have to wait until bedtime for the rest of my apology
He made dinner and it was all good. After, I asked him what he would of thought if I had jumped him after the disagreement. He said it would have confused him, he would be thinking WTH? but it wouldn't have stopped him and yes he would have thought the issue was then OVER, his words "Would have NOT been good for you..I'm glad you stood your ground." But he also added that I could have jumped him with a disclaimer FIRST, saying that I was still upset but needed him or wanted him physically and that would have worked too. Oooh... communication works so well

Last edited by LikeItHot; 08/14/07 04:31 PM.
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. (Amy Bloom)