Our H are giving the same excuses. My H used to drink with his single friends at least 3 04 times a week and not come home til the bar closed. Then tell me how he danced with these women andi was supposed to accept it. I look back and think how stupid am I. Now here I am probably 10 years of struggling with it. The last 5 years he has wanted out supposedly but always wants be here. The ROller coaster ride. My H to also blames me for how I made him unhappy and he tried so hard to make me happy. He too was so moody and you learned to react. He tries to coach you and saying I needed to find my self again which is true but then I thought I had to give in to make us happy Wrong move .....I am to upset tonight because my SIL who is my H only sister saw him sitting in the stands Saturday night with OW. Lots of his family was there. Including my oldest S and his girlfriend but I'm not sure if he saw or not. Its like there is nothing wrong with it. I am really struggling I need to say this is it...Do you ever think Why us...I am a good person and would never intentionally hurt any one. But to be hurt by someone you love is a killer. (I might hurt her)HAHAHA
Well evnough venting. I am feeling with you. Remember we have to be strong and detach. I am so thankful you gave me those articles. It is helping me so much. Hang in there.....
yeah our H's are quite a piece of work. Yes I ask myself why me, but right now I am trying to just figure out what God is trying to teach me right now. I do have to thank H for one thing, without him doing this, I would not be doing the soul searching that I am. I also am learning that I am a pretty tough lady and can do things without him. I honestly thought there was no way I could raise five kids on my own, but I think I am doing an ok job.
What’s this "I think I am doing an ok job." YOU are doing a great job. Keep up the good work but..........don't forget about YOU. Just like if you are sick you can't take care of your kids. If YOU are not happy and rested you can't be the great mom you are either.
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Cali, You sound like a wonderful mother. Bars are awful places for married folks because people turn blind eyes to deeds in the dark. That is annoying and my H works in a club. Oh yay.
Penny, My ILs told me they would never meet with my H's OW as they see her as an immoral homewrecker who has threatened the happiness of our children. Let's see how long they take that stance? My mom says blood is thicker than water and they will probably be polite to whoever he dates, cheating or not. So frustrating.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Knowing you feel beter makes me feel beter. Just realized you have 4S and 1D oh my. Alota men and just 2 laddies. Sounds like you will do just fine. Plenty of help. I bet the 1 yo is a hand full. Nice we califonia people had today huh? Too bad I can just look out a window. But soon..I had a very good PMA today
husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Oh you must have met my 1 yo? He is the most stubborn little fella, sort of like his momma! LOL But the cutest thing in the whole world!
Oh i dont know where in Cali you are, but I must have been pretty close to the center of the earth today. It registered over 100 here today. UGH.
If anyone cares, you can see me and my family on my myspace profile here http://www.myspace.com/kris4chloe just uploaded some new pics from this last weekend.
You must be Super Women with the kids. It wears me out thinking of all the stuff you have going on. I admire how you are handling it. I to wonder what God has in mind for us and why we are going through this. I also realize the mistakes I made and like you I was willing to try and correct them. But his response was its to late I waited all this time and tried to help you and you ignored me. Like he was trying to correct himself he has such a chip on his shoulder. She is the best friend that is perfect now. I know I can't do anything about her and everyone tells me that I have to do the best for me. I know that is what you are struggling with too. It is hard being put in or situation. I admire your strength. I am lucky to fact my boys are in their 20's so they can handle it the way they want and I don't have to worry about OW seeing them...( She is a horrible mother-4 kids and they all live with their dad-How handy for her and my H.
Hang in there- You are right I have done a lot of soul searching too. Have a good day and Keep moving ahead..We will Survive....
Nice Pic's need more of you though. Stanton, CA you are way down there? I live about 30 mi north of San Francisco. In Petaluma. The Wine country. It was about 80 here yesterday. But at about 5:00 pm we get a nice breeze down the valley from the coast. (I live about 20 miles from Bodega Bay. Remember the movie (The Birds). When I see pictures of all of your families I don't see how anyone could even think about leaving such beautiful history of a couple. The things you created together seems to mean nothing to our spouses.
Next time I go to Disney land I'll stop by.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I use to live in San Fran- Treasure Island. Do you know is it still a naval base? It was the island that connected the Bay & Oakland. I went back there for my 10yr high school reunion. I sure do miss it & all the wonderful people.Not to down the south but, here us hispanics get slack esp. my mother who has a heavy accent.
If I could afford I would move back there.
About the superwoman thing thats funny my H & were just emailing back & forth & he said for me to keep being the supermom since I wont let him take the girls 6,7 & 10yrs for overnighters anymore to OW's house. I reminded him I was the one who took them to all ER visits not once did he offer to take them so I could get a good night's rest before going to work the next morning. H couldn't eevn take them to doctors appoiment. I said this is also what fathers do. H use to say thats what mothers do, to evrything.
