Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

Last night my wife asked me to come over and we had a nice conversation, that she initiated, about our relationship.

Her feeling is that she is confused about what she wants out of life at this point, and she doesn't feel good about herself. She is going out and parting and dressing sexy because she loves the attention she is getting from men, but she is not happy with the choices she is making like drinking and hanging out with a bad crowd.

She volunteered that she is only talking to the OM and there is no PA, but I'm not so sure and I didn't ask because I'm sure she wouldn't tell me the truth anyway.

Even through all the tough times we have gone through recently ahe always wants me to hug her and even kisses me, but lately she doesn't want any physical contact at all. This is probably a huge assumption on my part , but I believe she has feelings for OM and that is why the sudden lack of contact with me.

She indicated that she really loves the changes I have made in myself and she says that she is the problem now. She indicates the obstacle to us restoring our relationship is her confusion about what she wants and how she is not happy with herself at this point. On some days she really wants us to eventually get back together and on others she feels it is hopeless.

She is talking independently to a therapist and he is recommending some kind of weekend retreat where she can "find herself". She is considering doing this towards the end of the month.

I told her I will continue to give her space to figure things out and be there for her if she needs help. It's very frustrating when there is nothing you can do to help.

Svejk