There are a lot of careers out there that require one parent to be away quite a bit
any anyone who takes one of those careers, and is a parent, is just as much a Bad Parent. They are abdicating their role as parent, and dumping the responsability on the other parent. Plus, depriving their child of their presence. Bad thing to do to a child.
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What I should have done was still had my own life instead of clinging to his.
There's a difference between "clinging", "having your own life", and "having a married life".
You having your own life, and him having his... is two people having separate lives. which is the exact opposite of "marriage: two people sharing their lives"
Anything that interferes with you two sharing your lives together.. by definition, is interfering with your marriage.
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I think H is actually using her. She has a good voice and I think he think she is going places...
you mean, he may THINK he is using her. If so, he's an idiot. Name me one singer who made it big, who either
a - stayed with the same band they made it big with b - stayed with the same manager
even if you can name one... compare numbers to all the ones that DIDN'T. He's an idiot.
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I believe he will have to experience some level of success and the hardships that can go with success before he realizes what he has done...
Studies on human nature, would say otherwise. Partial success, is actually the biggest reinforcer of "keep doing exactly what you are doing". Best thing would be for him to completely blow it/get dumped/etc.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
