Piecing - H still contacts OW

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Thanks, CL, for saying this EA is more like emotional blackmail. Yes, I think at this point it mostly is. There is of course still a part of H that loves OW. So he is taking a lot of nastiness from OW also without being mad about her. I am hoping she will be very mean to him soon so the nasty side will come out.

And Lin, it's funny because I did post the question on "what if I threaten to commit suicide", not in our last conversation, but a while back (OW likes to use this threat, so this is not the first time). H did say if I am going to commit suicide unless he leaves her, he will leave her. I told him I do not use threats, why force a person back using threats? I told him that if I am serious about commiting suicide, he would not know until it is too late.

H was being super nice to me yesterday, even sitting next to me to read his book while I watch TV when he usually likes to be in the "cave". He mentioned once that he is now happier because he told me about this. I sense there is a general letting down of guards. Before he accused me of following him around (sometimes, yes, in general, no) and there is always tension between us on how to behave. Now he seems much more relaxed around me. I am also trying to not mention anything R or A related in front of him. It is good when I can push the thoughts of A out, not good when I cannot.