Just found out that OW has a kid!!

[Ophelia]

I had a hunch, so I investigated something, and it turns out I'm right.

I remember several years ago, we were at IL's place, and MIL was telling us about the daughter of one of her friends who had just had a baby but was breaking up with her husband.

I remember this, because MIL would often bring the topic up, whenever she heard of another young couple splitting up right after having a baby, saying that it was a rather sad trend that seemed to be developing.

I seem to have a vague recollection of H mentioning having spoken with her in the time right after he'd left me. I remember because at the time I thought, "Great, that's just what I need, H chatting with someone who left her M despite having a newborn baby. Someone encouraging him that he's doing the right thing."

I couldn't remember her name though, but since seeing this thing about them having both gone to the same high school on his myspace, I looked up one of those websites where you can search for people who went to your school.

As soon as I saw her full name in the list, I knew I'd been right, and sure enough, her profile tells of how her M ended when her son was 3 months old, and she's now with her "long term partner", my H. He's even edited his own profile on the site to say how he ended his M and is "now happily seeing someone". In his profile he mentions that after his trip to Africa to climb Kilimanjaro, he wants to travel some more then "settle down with my family." He last updated his profile on Dec 18th, so about 2 months after he'd moved out of our house, he already considered OW and her son his new family.

So, this adds yet another strike against me in that OW's mother is a longterm friend of my MIL, (who I've managed to maintain a fairly good relationship with through all of this....she's never divulged any info about OW's identity, which is fair enough I suppose, because it's really not her place to tell me), which should make her fitting into the family, my family, a whole lot easier.

Plus, she's the kind of person who thought it a wonderful idea to ditch her M despite the fact they had a newborn son, so she's obviously got no particular bias towards M.

This just keeps getting worse. I'm losing faith, and fast.