I just got off the phone with my therapist and he suggested that I tell her that I'm moving out, and be up front about it if I plan on following through with it. Rather than not telling her when I decide to do it. I've thought of giving her an ultimatum of choosing either me or him. But I'm not sure if that's a good idea because I've often heard in the past that ultimatums never work and are taken as threats. I just really don't know what to do/think anymore. I feel like I'm being torn in 2 directions, one of me wanting to fix things, but not knowing if there's anything left to salvage. Two, wanting to get out and move on with my life so I can end the pain.
But if I do plan to save what's left of "us", I don't want to jeopardize any of the progress I've already made by making a bad choice now. We had a good night last night and she thanked me for understanding why she felt like she needed to go. Like I've said, I'm just so confused as to how to proceed. These are the hardest decisions I've ever had to make in my life.
I'm really glad this forum is here, it feels really good to be able to tell others how I feel.
