Good luck and sorry no improvement in your sitch so far.
Actually, thinking about it, I'm not sure there is *no* improvement... as I'll try to explain.
Originally Posted By: blackfoot on CE's thread
Why dont you update us on your thread AC. What is your game plan for addressing the sitch?
Ok, here's an update - it's late as we had a long weekend away at the outlaw's place! A month or two ago, I'd planned a 'date' in mind as to when I'd bring all of this crap to a head, and that would have been tomorrow (my birthday).
However, obviously, I've given this a ton of headspace recently and have decided that I can wait a while longer. Firstly, I don't think pressuring my W to do anything will get us anywhere fast, and it would probably have the opposite effect to what I'm after. Secondly, I'm not ready to walk out on my kids, my W, or this new house we're working on, either.
Thirdly, I have a bunch of personal and work goals I want to achieve in the next 12 months or so, for which I'm gonna need the support of my W.
And lastly, I honestly think I'm beginning to see changes in my W due to my efforts in not pressuring her for sex so much. See, my wife knows what I need, and she's admitted that it's her responsibility to do something about her LD. I'm guessing that her condition isn't hugely serious because we haven't had any test results yet (which should have arrived long before now if it was serious), but she is *very* self conscious of the symptoms of what she does have - one of which is abnormal/heavy bleeding. And right now, this is preventing her from sex.
However, as I continue to move things down a gear where sex is concerned, she seems to step it up. For example, we stayed at her parents' house at the weekend and as we lay in bed she backed up so that she was pressing against me, reached behind her and, well, y'know... with absolutely NO prompting from me. She's also being much more affectionate in the way she talks to me, she's kissing me twice before heading out to work, and blah, blah, blah.
One new theory of mine is that I've been getting her LLs completely wrong for a long while. I honestly thought that acts of service did it for her, but recently I've switched to pulling out all kinds of words of affirmation. I think it might be working... ;o)
We're also offloading the kiddos at my folks' house for a few days next week and she's got the whole week off work, too, so we'll see how that goes, eh.
Originally Posted By: blackfoot on CE's thread
How has the surfing been?
Rubbish. Heh. We're lucky to get a foot or two of swell this time of the year round here. Autumn swells'll be here before too long, though, and I should be heading down to France in a month or two as well...
