I had a long talk w/H yesterday on the phone, mostly about the effect of the S on the kids. I told him that I can still feel the sadness from when my parents had a temporary S over 20 yrs ago. He was really upset. In retrospect, I think I validated well, but may not have been DBing as well as I should be. I'm having a hard time putting my needs on the back burner.
He has gone away for a few days and will not be coming with us when we go to visit my parents this w/e (5+ hr drive). We haven't told the kids about the S yet, but he did tell them he was going away for a few days and that he wouldn't be coming w/us this w/e. I gave him a big hug when he left last night. I'm trying to be as supportive and empathetic as I can, trying to be the kind of wife he'd want to come back to.
