My penance...

[Ophelia]

I'm not about the berate you, prodigalwife, and I hope no one else does either. Frankly, seeing folks like you gives me new hope that my own sitch might actually work out one day.

I think most of us tend to obsess about what's going through the heads of our spouses and their A partners, so hearing it from the other side can make it a bit easier to understand what they're going through sometimes. Hopefully you'll be able to offer that insight to some of us and help us get through it!