So you're into approximately month nine dealing with this affair? That bites, but don't give up! I promise, the lie can't last forever, though it may seem like it.

As far as her being messed up...eh. I don't really know her situation, but your husband may seem like a step up in her world. She may honestly feel she's doing this to help her child. Still doesn't make it OK for her to be with your husband. But try really hard not to direct your anger and frustration at her. I haven't read the original thread yet (sorry!), but unless she was your friend before this mess, she didn't owe you loyalty, he did. It's wrong for her to keep holding him knowing he's your spouse, but some times the good ones are hard to let go (even if they're not ours).

The grass may be greener, but then again, it may also be astroturf.
~Amy C Brown