You don't exactly get over the OW/OM; the "relationship" dies. I know, I spent a year making myself and my husband miserable with my OM. It's a fantasy, a stage show. And it's a fake world that's easy to live in...for awhile. But reality intrudes and you begin to realize that the affair is not the fairytale it appears. The OM/OW loses their luster and one day you finally look at that person and think, "What the devil was I thinking? I don't love him/her." It may take time, but the illusion does die.
The grass may be greener, but then again, it may also be astroturf. ~Amy C Brown
