PA? MLC? Please shed a light

[mkultra]

Oh my goodness. I suppose the stress of all the things in your lives could lead to an EA that may be a PA. Sometimes I think they are one in the same because it is so innappropriate. What I do not get is why he would seek solace elsewhere when you have been his rock and support. That part sounds like a classic MLC because the book mentions the impending death of a loved one or illness could trigger feelings of mortality. Welcome to LaLa Land. They will lie to protect their spouse and because they fear getting in trouble. In their eyes, that is loving. They will do things to escape the stress of their reality and that reality includes the loyal spouse. It sucks. You can give unconditional love and wait faithfully or get out. Sounds like you want to stand by your man. I am and I sometimes feel like I am suffering some emotional abuse by being with a MLCer who sleeps elsewher. It is cruel. Read everything you can on infidelity and MLC. I would not contact the OW. She is really not the issue. They say that pushes them closer together. They know it is wrong and they do not care. My H's OW could not care less that she wrecked our home. If I had known about it earlier I would have spent more time with him, but it may have not helped at all. Don't snoop. Be caring. Don't pressure. You are in for a rough ride. Call a DB coach if you need.