Fran My answer: yes it would, but not necessarily that much. One of the good things about being a woman whose guy ain't getting there is that you get to get there multiple times. Sorry Fran, I forgot about taking longer is a benefit for some women.
I had in mind a guy trying to get off, but not getting there. The gal getting tingly feelings but not necessarily having an O.
It's only after about the 7th that you start feeling a bit guilty. LOL Fran, Fran, 7 O’s. Sorry to say I never have been in a situation like that, but I wish I was. BB has had 1 O at a time, and those took a lot of work.
what gets a guy into Pirate/wolf mode Fifty plus years of hearing women want a gentle man and don’t want to be taken, and now you tell me women want to be taken by a pirate. Boy, did I come to the party too late.
Why does this make a woman hot? 1. She can abdicate all responsibility and relax 2. She likes to be with a man that knows what he wants and knows how to get it 3. She likes to feel like the guy is stronger than her 4. Risk/vulnerability. Submitting to him doing whatever he wants with her is very vulnerable and for this reason VERY sexy. It's all about really trusting the guy. Fran, your list makes sense.
Number 2 is a matter of preference for some women. When you say “He knows how to get it” I see if he gets it in a manner not to her liking, the guy is going to pi$$ her off or make her angry if her mood changes. What works this week, might be upsetting to her a couple of months later.
Numbers 1 and 3, I totally see. Number 4 works when the R is going well, but I have reservations about trusting the concept, especially with a LDW and when there are issues in the R.
I still like the list and see that not doing these things, the R can slip away to almost nothing.
Corri It USED to bother me if the guy didn't get off, because I thought that was the whole reason why he wanted to have sex to begin with…… Now, it doesn't bother me in the least,
I am also very direct with him. I don't hedge, I don't say... "well, if you don't want to, that's okay..." I just tell him what I want, and I leave it up to him to decide if he wants to or not. If he does... . If he doesn't and I'm really horny, I go get my toys, take care of myself, and then cuddle with him after. That sounds wonderful. I do envy both of you.
For him, it removes all pressure to perform... That Is a bit different. I never felt pressured. That is one reason I asked how women feel when I guy doesn’t O.
conversely, it does the same thing for me when I get him off in some way, but am not getting off myself. I have too much experience in similar situations. BB said she doesn’t want to get off. Sometimes I want to believe her. Sometime I think it was part of some manipulation game that got out of hand.
I measure it with how open and honest I am and he is... before, during and after sex. THAT makes for unbelievable sex... That sounds really good Corri.
I don’t know if me being honest with BB would end our sex life so I find things to tell myself it is as good as she can do and that keep me from being honest.
To tie this information into my original thoughts, I thought guys got off 99.9% of the time. Because some guys don’t get off at that high a rate I was wondering what women thought and felt.
Thank you for the answers and your thoughts. I wanted to understand the sex/dating/M part from a female perspective.
I have heard so much from the nice girls or even bad girls don't like............. people, missionary a couple times a year was beginning to sound wild.
