I hope that you gave yourself a set amount of time to feel this, then got back to the dance...
I am reminded of a convo that Nomo and I had at the dance hall--all of those people dancing were smiling. The entire time. Exhausted, sweaty, and euphoric.
I know that I seemed to be on the sidelines for a bunch of dances, but I was watching. And motivated to get out there, find that happiness that radiated from all of the dancers. And it DIDN'T MATTER who their partner was!!! It was about THEMSELVES...yes, you were dancing with someone, there was a link. But your body, the knowledge of how to move and interact without words, only what came from inside YOURSELF, was what brought out the happiness in the room.
I think your journey has brought you, without words, to this deep realiztion about what life is and how you fit into it. How you can make your own happiness.
I hope, for her sake, that your wife decides to join you on this new path. Because you already know the way. I was honored to meet you and our other friends this past weekend--thank you so much for the inspiration, the talk, and the evidence that joy can be in all of our lives again, if we choose it.