Our H are giving the same excuses. My H used to drink with his single friends at least 3 04 times a week and not come home til the bar closed. Then tell me how he danced with these women andi was supposed to accept it. I look back and think how stupid am I. Now here I am probably 10 years of struggling with it. The last 5 years he has wanted out supposedly but always wants be here. The ROller coaster ride. My H to also blames me for how I made him unhappy and he tried so hard to make me happy. He too was so moody and you learned to react. He tries to coach you and saying I needed to find my self again which is true but then I thought I had to give in to make us happy Wrong move .....I am to upset tonight because my SIL who is my H only sister saw him sitting in the stands Saturday night with OW. Lots of his family was there. Including my oldest S and his girlfriend but I'm not sure if he saw or not. Its like there is nothing wrong with it. I am really struggling I need to say this is it...Do you ever think Why us...I am a good person and would never intentionally hurt any one. But to be hurt by someone you love is a killer. (I might hurt her)HAHAHA
Well evnough venting. I am feeling with you. Remember we have to be strong and detach. I am so thankful you gave me those articles. It is helping me so much. Hang in there.....