It is disappointing for me too. I still feel like a failure...hopefully, I will get over those feelings.
I think the feeling of being a failure goes away with time. We did all that we could, gave all we had. We are not failures, our S's failed our M's not us.
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At the end of the day, we have to hang our hat on that and trust God will help us with the rest.
I was given card a long time ago that said "Do your best and let God do the rest". I always believed that and tried to live by that simple saying. He will not put anything infront of me that I cannot handle. I may not always understand "why" but he is going to use this sitch and others for his good one day. We might not be able to see him working, but like you I trust that he is.
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One of my fears is the fine line between being too picky or not picky enough...I think that I need to date for awhile to see what is out there.
Same here. I worry more about being too picky and having someone get attached to me and then breaking her heart. I know how rejection feels and would hate to make anybody feel the way my W has made me.
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I told her that I would date someone with children, and you are actually the reason that I would.
Wow, thanks for the complement. I am glad that I opened up some possibilities for you. We guys with children can be pretty fun. Heck, we have to be where Dad's. I honestly think that when I find the right person she will quickly fall in love with my girls and wouldn't even think twice about being with me without them.
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I see that you have been through the same struggles as me and to top it off, you have had to be strong every day for your girls...
Yeah, we have had our struggles. I sometimes think that my mythical super dad image that my girls have of me is gone from them. But when I see their smiling faces and when they run to me wanting a huge hug I know they think no less of me now then before this mess. I hope my girls in the future pay me the biggest complement a dad can recieve and tell me they had a hard time finding a H who treats them the way I do and love as much as I do.
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you will find someone that loves you and your girls...don't settle for less.
