AKFLY, sorry you are here, you will get lots of conflicting advice, like IMP says, you have to find what of it helps and works for you.
Mainly just try to focus on you. What you need. How you can be the best man, the best father, that you can be.
There are lots of good men here, dealing with teetotally crazy wives, and God love them, they are hanging in there. It is indicative of the character and strength you will find among the people that are here. You're among friends.
