Let me tell you something I did years ago and it was a blast! One morning I saw my H leave for work and he seemed like he just dreaded facing the day. So, I immediately got busy and cleaned up the house, made arrangements for the kids to spend the night with grandparents, and went and bought the most outragious outfit I could find (well...for me it was). Shorts and a halter top was as sexy as I dared....lol. Anyway, I set candles around and tried to set the front room in some kind of "theme"....just can't remember what it was....but anyway, when H came in the back door, I was all poised like a model when he walked in. He dropped his lunch (and nearly his teeth) when he saw me! It just made all the difference in the world in his feelings, I can tell you that! But, we had so much fun that night.
And old concept that went out of style, I guess, but worked for me in keeping excitment in the M, was a book that I doubt is even in print now. It was called "The Total Woman". I got a lot of ideas from her and they were fun, too.
I know that coming home to an attractive wife means an awful lot to a H. If we just doll up when we are going out or know somebody is coming over....he knows it's not for him. However, if we are cute just for him...he loves it! It's hard to do it and especially when there are kids around, but fixing up for him every day just in time for his homecoming....will mean the world of difference. And, like you said, it makes you feel better.....and something else...we usually act better also. I found that dressing up in "costumes" is so much fun! Oh the stories I could tell! (But you want to be sure the kids are gone!)
It sounds like your H may be a bit bored. No offense intended...it happens to the best of us. When we have to do all the things women, wives, and mothers have to do these days...there is hardly any energy left to wash our face and go to bed. No wonder women don't have the desire for sex at night! Seriously, it does effect the libido.
It works both ways, really. My problems began when I became bored. It's a very long story, so I won't get into it. But, with age and health problems, I was not able to do the things to stay busy like I once did. Anyway, the breakdown started becasue I was lonely and bored. That's when I discovered the games over the internet and IM and soon chat rooms. One thing led to another and then I was chatting with men and then I really got into trouble. So,you see sweetie, bordom is a serious problem for either gender.
I bet you have a good imagination. You certainly have the challenge and the desire to wake up your R. Why not try some fun things and just see what happens? If you are too leary about going over-board....then just keep it "light and fun". What I'm saying is that men don't want to come home and face problems b/c most of them have to deal with problems all day long on the job. They are ready for rest, food, fun, and most of all......sex. Yep! That's about it for them....doesn't take much! (lol)
Sweetie, you talk to me all you want. I have found that it helps when I feel weak or (in my case....tempted) or discouraged, just get on board here and start reading other posts or start writing about my day and how I'm feeling.
By the way, you would be surprised at how many people on here read what you say, but may never respond. Also, you would be surprised to know how many people may be helped by what you say.
Stay strong and talk anytime.
Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
