Thank you for the feedback. In regards to being firm...I confronted her a few weeks back about the OM and told her that her behavior was unacceptable in our house with our children sleeping down the hall. If she wanted to pursue another man than she should move out and take it somewhere else(that night I was not very calm). Just this past Friday my wife went out with friends while I stayed home to watch the kids. I have never had a problem with "girls night out" as I think any woman needs that. However, when you are going out without a wedding ring on and are carrying on some type of EA, it is not acceptable. So, when she finally returned at 2:30 am I sat her down and calmly said that this type of behavior is degrading and humiliating for me. Watching our kids so she can see "whomever" is unacceptable while we are living under the same roof. She said that she would never do something that would be humiliating to me yet...she carries on secret conversations with the OM on her cell phone when I am at work BUT still in our house.
She said, "you never had a problem with me going out before" to which I gave her the reasons stated above. She then came back saying that since I work in a bar(my 2nd job) that she doesn't know who I may be "talking to " or "doing". I responded by showing my hand with my wedding band still on and I said, "this is why"!!!
Frank_D, I totally agree with your assessment about my lack of confidence to fix this problem. This whole financial mess just seems to continue and now she has decided that she is better off leaving and going on with her life. This OM may be a symptom but he is robbing her of any emotional feelings towards our marriage. My W hides her cell phone but she says she has "no secrets"
So I ask for members here for their feedback and I wanted to get an opinion. I want to say to her this..."is this OM worth breaking apart our family"?
Replies please and thanks again to all...
Me: 41 W: 40 D5, S4 Bomb Dropped: 7/8/2007 Status: W has moved out with kids 8/25/2007
