Oh man, now the kids (or at least your son) is involved. I am so sorry for his sadness, no child deserves that. He was right to talk to him about it, BUT soooo wrong that he put his own children in that kind of position.
My H had an A with a playgroup mom (soap opera anyone?) and the first question I asked was "What did you do in front of our own children?". He promised nothing, and honestly the kids never acted any differently, but I was fuming that he used our kids to see her (her kids are the same age). Sickening.
I totally know what you mean about H blaming you for him leaving. In a round about way, I have been blamed for his A, because he was so unhappy and lonely. He has never said it, and believe you me, I have made it clear, (just like you said), I will NEVER take responsibility for his loss of control. I will however, try to fix myself and what has gone wrong in our marriage.
I am so sorry. What a rotten day. Hope you can sleep tonight. If anyone should have insomnia, it should be your H.
KUDOS to you and never bad mouthing your H. My H and I have agreed to that as well. It should never be about the kids, and they will form their own opinions from what happening in front of them.
