okay, just read the bad news. first off, this is all hearsay. yes, ss might be on target, but it is filtered thru him, and he's 20, and obviously emotional about it, so try not to let it influence you. just be the better person. and very good that you aren't asking for details.
this must be very hard for your ss. but it sounds like you will never desert him, which is probably something he needs to hear/needs to know. that you are there for him, and that his sister is his sister, no matter what any one else says. even if you divorce, let him know that you will always be family.
very tough when families get involved at all.
good luck tonight. and yeah, cars have been known to end up at the destination they didn't start out at. and the best intentions don't always work out as planned, even if you do things that you think will prevent it from happening (eg, I won't shave my legs! I won't wear cute undies! then I definitely won't let him come back to the house!). honestly, I don't know the answer...I think moving too fast isn't likely the best thing, but I don't know. its been 2 months since we last had sex, but yeah, h and I have had sex several times since the bomb. not since he moved out the last time, though. do I think each time we had sex was a mistake? no. but I do know the last couple of times we did were just not good. well, except for the last time, the sex was good, but the repercussions weren't.
good luck, and hope you have a good dinner/night.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
