I've got payroll today so I'll be stuck at my desk most of the day. I'm going to try and do a few laps around my apt complex tonight after it cools down a bit.
For some reason, i dont seem to recall and XH? Can you give us something on that if you havent already? Why did that go south, pt is, is there a pattern?
Slap me if you already wrote all this down, or kindly tell me you did!
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Nope I didn't write it down. I got married at 21 (strike one) b/c I was pregnant (strike two) and we'd only been dating a little over 7 months (strike three!). I stayed at home with our daughter (now D14) and he worked, so we were broke most of the time (is there a strike four?). Anyway, things were strained from the beginning and throwing a baby into the mix doesn't help a newly married couple..oh and we moved 9 hours from my family. We'd been married a little over a year when my H (now XH) decided to join the Air Force, so I took D and went home to Georgia and lived w my parents. While he was in tech school I'm pretty sure he had an affair, but he never admitted to it. He says that he just tried to be her friend and she wanted more. When we got to our first base he was ARRESTED for adultery b/c girl turned him in, he ended up having something on his record for 6 months..then it dropped off. Okay, I'm having a nervous breakdown, threatening to take D and go home. He says the girl is crazy, and I believed him. Then about 3 months later this girl shows up at our church! One of our friends at church found out that she switched orders with someone to come to the base we were at (this is turning into a Lifetime movie isn't it?). Basically, nothing happened after that. I stood by my man (::gags::) and she ended up marrying someone and leaving our church.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
So needless to say things were stressed. Things got better and we decided to have another baby. Daughter #2 (now D10) was born, H got out of the Air Force, and we built a house. Seemed like we had the perfect life. We'd been in our house about 4 months when H had to go on drill for the Air Ntl Guard in Savannah, GA (a week before Thanksgiving). We fought almost the whole time he was gone for stupid things (money, his parents, etc). The day he was supposed to come home (2 days before Thanksgiving) he calls, tells me he isn't coming home and promptly hangs up. I had no way of getting in touch with him (this was before cell phones were as cheap as they are now) and I fell to pieces. I had no idea where he was for an entire week and then he wouldn't tell me where he was staying. I finally came to terms that he was probably having an affair and decided that I wanted to save my marriage. I can't really remember what happened but one night he broke down and told me that he'd been living with a woman he met during his week in Savannah and that they had an apt together. I decided to take him back and work on things. He moved home.
